In the spirit of power
It is the second week of the US Open, i.e. the 4th Tennis Grand Slam Tournament of the year. Tennis has changed a lot over the years and has become a power play par excellence. And so it is interesting to observe how one of the American commentators in one sentence mirrored the thoughts of a current reality.
Linking aggressive behaviour to liking somebody
What he said upon being interviewed by his Swiss colleagues with respect to Federer was that he really liked Federer because he was playing so aggressively. Huh? Come again? Linking aggressive behaviour to liking the person?!
Interesting, isn’t it? In Tennis, if a player (male or female) is able to literally force the other player out of the court by hitting harder and harder and harder once again, he or she is hailed as Genius. Power is it! And making most of an adversary’s weak moment or spot will earn that player extra points.
Current reality – the ticket to fame and glory
Whilst many may argue that this is the way it is, it at the same time does not necessarily make it right or something to admire or to strive after. But of course, unfortunately, as this type of behaviour is perceived as the ticket to fame and glory, many strive to copy that kind of behaviour. Small wonder then, we see this highly aggressive behaviour more and more in business; we see it on the road; we see it in politics; we see it in all walks of life; like it is going to make our life happier.
The winner takes it all
Tennis shows this phenomenon maybe more than any other sport. It is direct and the manifestation of power and aggressiveness the only means to win the game. And this is what we admire and prompts commentators to link aggressiveness with liking somebody!
Okay, we may not necessarily approve of some of the outbursts a player displays on his way to winning or losing a match. Nevertheless, winning is the only thing that counts!
Throwing the system into disharmony
Not exactly in the spirit of Yoga or any other system that has the development of the human being as its primary goal.
And no, just because many people begin to copy this behaviour does not make it any better. And yes, obviously this kind of behaviour has been known all throughout history of mankind. However, it has been a while, since it has spread so fast and noticeably across all sports, industries and political parties. It is amazing, really, to observe this phenomenon. It starts in pre-kindergarten when the kids are taught that being competitive – and a winner – is the only viable thing in the world. Nothing else will do. Talk about throwing the system into disharmony. Wow.
It is really like taking a wrong turn and driving down the wrong path, isn’t it? We all know we are really thinking and behaving in a way which is not so good. And yet, we still do it: Why? – Because everybody does it. Hm.
In such a situation there are two possibilities: either you turn around and back track until you find the correct turning or you continue on, praying and hoping that there will be another point to turn onto the right path. Going forward with something one really knows is wrong is high risk.
It is really very simple. When we feed a certain kind of behaviour it grows. It is our individual choice, though, which kind of behaviour we want to nourish. One leads to destruction and unhappiness, the other to joy. Hey, and guess what? It all starts with the way we think.
The really good thing though about this is that no one else can be blamed for one’s own behaviour and one’s own way of thinking. This is great news as it means that it is in our own hands to change the way we think and the way we behave. No one else can do it for you. This then really is true power without the adjunct, though, of aggressiveness. The choice is yours. OM.